When preparing for takeoff, a flight attendant will guide passengers through the safety features of the plane. Important information is taught, such as where the exits are located, how to use the seat cushion as a floatation device, and what to expect should the cabin lose pressure. In the event of pressure loss, oxygen masks will descend from the ceiling and be available for use. The attendant explains that adults must place the mask on themselves before helping their children. This is an excellent analogy for self-care. Self-care isn't about being selfish by keeping resources from others. Self-care is all about taking care of your important needs so that you have the capacity to care for others without hurting yourself.
Self-care is the act of taking care of yourself in whatever way necessary to meet your needs and make a restorative impact for yourself in any area of your life. That may sound like a tall order, but active self-care is vital for preventing fatigue and burnout....
"Stress" is a relative term as it relates to our life. Contrary to the popular phrase I'm too blessed to be stressed, we are often stressed-out more than we are aware of because it becomes a constant state of being. Stress leads to burnout, and the best prevention for burnout is self-awareness and taking action to de-stress regularly.
At some point in our lives, we morph from carefree children to stress-filled adults - adults who have expectations and demands that pull them every-which-way. It is not always possible or practical to completely remove yourself from every stressful situation, but there is always hope to build coping skills that diminish the impact that stress has on your life.
Each of us lives a unique life filled with unique experiences, so our stress relief needs are going to be unique as well. Here's how to craft your own tailor-made de-stress plan:
Identify what causes your stress- What is the culprit robbing you of your peace? Is it a person, an activity, or an...
Do you put a lot of value on outcomes and achievements? If you do, you may have a difficult time understanding the benefits of down time.
High achievers tend toward seeing down time as being too unproductive, or a literal "waste of time."
I assure you, it's not. In fact, it is a requirement to avoid burnout and fatigue.
Down time is designed to get you out of the fast-lane of life and onto the country back road. Down time allows you to experience the things you work so hard for, such as your family, your hobbies, your environment, and expressing your true self. Each day that you are working or focused on responsibilities, you can't fully be in the moment with those you are working for: yourself and your family. What's the point of all that work if you...
It’s not practical to ‘fire’ every single client who causes you grief: Especially if the problem is your own lack of assertiveness and unwillingness to protect your boundaries. Sometimes you want to say no, sometimes you want to say ‘go’ – but what you end up doing (much to your frustration – after all, you’re a business owner; this should be easy-peasy) is putting up with it.
1. Taming Time Suckers
This type of client often pays big but expects an exclusive on your time. He calls, emails, wants your advice on stuff outside of your area of focus, and expects you to fit in unscheduled sessions at the drop of a hat. (You may especially notice that he always wants you to see him or Skype him during hours you have explained are not available – like your evenings and weekends!)
He’ll even phone you or email fifty times on vacation!
If a client is losing you money by sapping time you aren’t offering and cutting into your...