If you’ve been on this planet for any amount of time, you’ve probably attracted your fair share of boundary pushers.
You know that person – the one who pushes your buttons, tests your limits and seemingly makes it their lifelong goal to guilt you into getting what they want.
This person may show up in your life as a co-worker, family member, friend, customer or even your spouse.
Unless you want to forever commit to pleasing the unpleasable, it’s important to rethink your strategy and put these boundary bullies in their place.
Here are 4 ways to handle the boundary pushers in your life so they know exactly where you stand.
1. Be firm: No matter how much someone pushes against the boundaries you’ve set, it’s important not to cave in and let them have their way. If you’re not a natural boundary setter, there may be a tendency to do this. You have to remember why you set the boundaries in the first place and be firm about enforcing them. Make it...
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If you are always saying yes regardless of the toll it takes on you to keep those commitments, you may be setting yourself up for fatigue that could lead to burnout.
No one wants to let others down, but it is a misconception to think that saying no is selfish or irresponsible. Being asked to take on a task by someone else is a request, not and order. If you are truly unable to help them, then there will be another solution out there for them to find.
There is an art to saying no and staying in a state of peace as you do it. Learning to gently say no and remain unharmed by the fallout of another's disappointment will ultimately keep your energy, sanity, and schedule protected for the important things you need to be able to say "yes" to.
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