If there wasn’t enough stress to deal with last year with the ongoing pandemic and all the changes that came with it, plus the loss of my beloved Dachshund of 17 years, an email dropped into my inbox mid-November telling me that I had been chosen to have an anti-money laundering inspection.
Funnily enough, I never usually get chosen for anything. I’m the kind of person that if I were the only one in a raffle draw, I wouldn’t get chosen. But hey, not this time! Of all the things to get picked for.
My heart sunk. I knew it wasn’t going to be easy. I was dreading it.
For those of you who are new to the VA world, by law, virtual assistants who provide bookkeeping services have to be supervised to ensure they are compliant with anti-money laundering regulations.*
The situation didn’t start off well.
Initially I wasn’t sure whether the email was real. I received an email from the supervisory body advising me of the inspection but also another...
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There is an art to saying no and staying in a state of peace as you do it. Learning to gently say no and remain unharmed by the fallout of another's disappointment will ultimately keep your energy, sanity, and schedule protected for the important things you need to be able to say "yes" to.
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