Finding a positive outlook and over-coming self-doubt
Feb 02, 2021
It’s been tough for everyone over the last 12 months, and sadly it looks like it’s going to continue for a while longer too.
Even for the most optimistic, life is starting to become a grind, but if you suffer from self-doubt, everything can appear more amplified.
In my weekly email blasts this month, I am going to talk about how to over-come self-doubt and find a positive outlook.
You may be wondering why I’ve chosen this as a subject. Well, I believe confidence is similar to a muscle. If it isn’t maintained, it weakens.
Lack of confidence can lead to procrastination, or double-triple checking everything you do. Normal day-to-day decisions become difficult to make, and boundaries vague.
Self-doubt can affect anyone. If your regular routine changes (as it has for many of us over the last twelve months), it can lead to undermining your confidence.
If you suddenly find yourself with an unrealistic workload, you can start to feel overwhelmed, which in turn can lead to self-doubt.
If you’ve been asked to work in a completely different way and you’re feeling a lot of pressure, your confidence can wane, allowing self-doubt to creep in.
Throughout February, I’ll share strategies that will help you to start feeling better about yourself, feel more confident, successful and know that your future is bright.
The truth is, that no matter where you are in life right now, no matter how many mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve passed up, or what’s happened to you in life, you can overcome your self-doubt and start believing in yourself again, and this can make you feel a whole lot happier. This is true even if you’ve never believed in yourself before. It’s within your power, and it will change your life completely.
If you're feeling happy and confident but know someone who may benefit from the self-doubt emails this month, please feel free to forward them on.
This week I start with discovering what self-doubt is and how it can affect your life.
So, let’s get started.
What Is Self-Doubt?
The dictionary defines self-doubt as, "the lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities." This is a very good definition, but it doesn’t fully demonstrate the problems caused by self-doubt and not believing in yourself.
Think about these questions:
❓ What are the dangers of self-doubt?
❓ How does self-doubt affect your life?
❓ Where does self-doubt come from?
❓And most importantly, how do you overcome it?
Over this month, I’ll give the answers to all these questions and more. If it helps, take notes as you read through when you notice issues that resonate most with your current situation. Everyone has different issues, reasons for their self-doubt, and problems in their life. You’re a unique person and there is no one-size-fits-all answer.
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The Dangers of Self-Doubt and How It Affects Your Life
There are many dangers inherent in hanging on to self-doubt that you should be aware of. If you suffer from self-doubt, it’s important to understand the type of damage you’re doing to yourself if you continue to hang on to it. It has affected your past, is affecting your present and can devastate your future if you don’t deal with it. Here's why.
➡️ Self-Doubt damages motivation – When you don’t think you can do much, and don’t trust yourself to do something right, fear can get in the way of doing anything. This can turn into a severe lack of motivation to do more than you have to just to get by. It can affect your entire life because you may have fewer satisfying relationships, a job you hate, and not enjoy life much.
➡️ Self-doubt causes procrastination – If you don’t think you know how to do things "right" then you may end up thinking you’re a perfectionist, which is just a way to procrastinate and never finish anything or finish it at the last minute. This is how you set yourself up for failure. No one is perfect and perfection is not necessary to thrive in this life.
➡️ Self-doubt leads to regret – when you miss opportunities, you will experience regret. Regret, when left unresolved, can lead to chronic stress and anxiety. This will then build upon itself to create even more self-doubt, which will create more regret, and so on.
➡️ Self-doubt causes defeatism – If you allow self-doubt to continue, you can start to become almost morbid in your belief that you cannot experience anything good or happy. It’s essentially an acceptance of failure.
➡️ Self-doubt stunts self-improvement – When you have no faith in yourself, it’s hard to even think about self-improvement. You think you have too much to improve because you can’t do anything, and maybe you even think you’re a victim of your circumstances to a point that you cannot achieve even if you try.
➡️ Self-doubt stifles inspiration – When you don’t believe in yourself, it’s hard to get inspired to do anything new or to create anything new. Ending the self-doubt will bring out the creativity you already really have.
As you can see and may have experienced yourself, self-doubt can be dangerous, and these are all good reasons on their own to work toward overcoming self-doubt and learning to believe in yourself.
Don't forget, you can join my free 10-day e-course HERE if you'd like to learn more. You'll receive one email per day from the day you join. Each email is packed with straight forward strategies you can start implementing immediately.
In my next post, we’ll talk about how to identify where your self-doubt lies.
Create a more beautiful world for yourself 💖